Ken, Barbie, you, and me

While in college I knew a couple who were nicknamed “Ken and Barbie” because they were so “perfect.” They were stunningly good-looking, smart, talented, and so much in love. They were the couple every other couple aspired to become. Then he wavered. Eventually, their marriage dissolved.

I sometimes wonder if the image of perfection tarnished their relationship.

The thing is, while Ken and Barbie are fun to play with as a child, they are not to be held up as a paragon of relationships. The dolls are plastic, disproportional, pliable, and unrealistic.  They create the illusion of the image we want others to see.

When a child is finished the dolls are put down, sometimes thrown down on the floor, to be left until the next time the child wants to play with them.

Compare this to God’s encounter with us. So God created mankind in his own image,
    in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them (Genesis 1:27). 

Add to it these verses:

So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man” (Genesis 2:20-23).

God created us, molding us in His image. We were created for His purposes and His glory. We come in various shapes and various sizes. We have different personalities.

We are unique. Never forget, Ken and Barbie were purchased in a box. We were purchased by Christ’s blood.

I have heard many people over the years tell me that they thought I should “make” my husband do something, not do something, say something, not say something. I always shake my head. I am not here to manipulate my husband to do anything. He is not a doll.

He is a living, breathing, amazing, work of God. Any action I take to contradict that will contradict the very purposes God has for him.

I wonder, O Best Beloved, how many people have tried to manipulate you to do something, be something, that was never part of God’s blueprint for your life?

Dear Ones,  do not let the world try to make you be what the world wants you to do, be, see, become. We are created by the Almighty God of the Universe. We are priceless, precious treasures of God.

Anyone who says we are otherwise treats us like a doll. We are not to be thrown down, but instead we were created to lift others up. To celebrate the very Creator who made us. To encourage, to love, to cry, to laugh, to teach, to befriend, to work, to rest, to give Glory to our Heavenly Father.

About gretchenr17

Wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend. Writer, farmer, fellow sojourner... at every turn I learn a bit more about God's wild mercies.
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