His heart

When we parent our children,we will quickly come to see that there are days when they make choices that have unnecessary and sometimes uncomfortable consequences. If the child just did what was asked or expected, there wouldn’t be hurt feelings or loss of privileges or whatever may be the negative outcome.

I have watched parents’ hearts break as their son or daughter consistently make selfish choices that impact others around them. I have watched spouses who are helpless to prevent their husbands or wives from making decisions that will injure those they say they love.

This kind of heartache has been heavy on me today. While begging God to help me understand why people would choose this kind of selfishness I heard, “Now you understand free will and how my heart feels for my children.”


When God created us, He gave us the ability to follow His direction and be blessed by the security and joy of being within His design. But every time we choose to do things we want to do, just because we want to do them, we run the risk of blowing right past the safe boundaries that God has created for us.

We run the risk or injury to our bodies, our hearts, our souls, our spirits, and those very same things in the people around us. When we choose to break curfew as a young man or woman, we cause our parents undue worry, concern, and often a loss of sleep.

God sees us deciding our lives without Him and His heart breaks too. He knows the best plans, the best purposes for our lives and when we choose to walk away from Him it hurts.

O Best Beloved, you and I know that our lives have the potential to be examples to others. Scripture is full of these examples too. Some are examples of men and women of faith who followed God and were used mightily by Him. Others chose poorly and their lives are examples of what not to do.

Just look at David and Saul. Saul was selected by Israel to be a human king, like the other kingdoms had. He had opportunity to follow God and become a mighty king. He consistently chose his own path and eventually it led to his death and the death of his sons.

David was a young man who followed God, was quick to repent of his mistakes, and God used him mightily. We still name our sons David to this day, not many are naming their kids Saul. Their life choices are their testimony.

Dear Ones, let us remember that when God puts boundaries up it is not to keep us from the fun, it is to keep us from the heartache.

This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him. For the Lord is your life, and he will give you many years in the land he swore to give to your fathers, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob (Deuteronomy 30:19-20, bold mine).


About gretchenr17

Wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend. Writer, farmer, fellow sojourner... at every turn I learn a bit more about God's wild mercies.
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