Many people have commented on how my husband and I are almost finished with our parenting role. I often reply with a smile because to me, our role is only changing. Yes, our children are going off to college within the next year, but my role as Mom isn’t ending. In some ways it is just beginning.
My husband and I will now be watching our sons as they stretch out on their own. We will now see them live out the values and lessons we instilled in them over the years. It is where the proof of our parenting comes out for all to see. But we are not finished yet.
Now we pray over them to make the decisions they need to, with the wisdom we poured into them. We will be ready to offer a listening ear as they strive to make sense of adult opportunities. To offer insight when asked how to approach a relationship or to walk away from one with honor.
We are still to keep watch over our children. While our roles change from hands-on to hands-off, our hearts are not off. In some ways, our hearts are more connected than before. We understand that the choices, decisions, indecision, and outcomes they will face have a long-lasting impact on their lives. Potentially on their eternity.
During the time of the Old Testament cities were often walled to protect against marauders and armies. The only way to have time to prepare for an attack was to have men on the wall watching. Ezekiel 33:1-6 describes the importance of the watchman and the vigilance required to keep the people safe. It is the same thing with my husband and me. We must remain attentive for our families and those who we are commissioned to care for in our lives. As a parent, aunt, uncle, godparent, teacher, mentor- whatever our role. We are the watchmen and we are to stand on the wall.
O Best Beloved, will you stand on the wall, in the gap, watching over those in your care? If not you, then who?
The Lord will keep you from all harm— he will watch over your life; the Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore (Psalm 121:7-8).