I have struggled with writing this post due to the subject matter. I have been sickened and crushed by the news as person after person comes forward to report offensive behavior. My heart hurts for those who have been assaulted, the families of the perpetrators and victims. It is overwhelming to me. In the past weeks my social media was full of #metoo from many corners, some I would never have expected.
When God created intimacy in the Garden of Eden it was intended for building and rebuilding the unity between husband and wife. The Fall came (Genesis 3) and one of the first things I believe the enemy did was start to twist the purpose of intimacy. Over the centuries one can track the use of intimacy to control, manipulate, and threaten others. I am not pointing fingers at any one person or entity, it’s one of the battles we face this side of Heaven and on the other side of the Fall.
So, what is a believer to do? How can we battle the enemy when it comes to twisted intimacy? First, foremost, and always– pray. We need to pray for ourselves, those we love, those who are in harm’s way, and yes, those who are perpetrating the harm. Prayer for open hearts and eyes, humility and honesty to confess the troubles being faced, the troubles we’d rather keep in the dark. Dear Ones, we know that when the troubles we face come into the Light of Jesus, they take their true form and can be dealt with through His power and grace.
The next step regarding the twisted intimacy is to speak up, stand up, and do it with an attitude of mercy ( Ephesians 4:2). We are not to judge, condemn, or scold anyone. We are to love them, right where they are- in a crumpled mess on the floor or even standing in defiance. We are to love them. We are not saying we like what is happening, not approve it. But to recognize that love has the power to change- especially love given through the Cross (1 Peter 1:22).
Scripture is clear we are to love one another as Christ has loved us. Sacrificially, with mercy and grace, humility, in His truth. The enemy wants to destroy anything and everything that God declared as good. Intimacy is definitely on the top of his list. Only through the Holy Spirit power will we be able to battle against the enemy.
Let us encourage those who are speaking out in truth about hurts that have been too long in the darkness. Let us stand up, stand beside, take their hand, love and pray, support and believe that truth-telling is needed for redemption and restoration to begin. Just as when we confessed our own sins (1 John 1:9) we knew it was the first step toward redemption, so too is the “confession” of the hurts.
Let us reclaim the intimacy God created and let it be holy and sacred again, redeemed through the Cross.