With the onset of home improvement television we have all heard the words, To get this look… and then the host tells you how to go and buy items at such-and-such a store and then make bake, sew, cut, glue, or nail something to make it look like the item they are holding.
Many of us are also familiar with the expression hashtag-nailed it- as well. The tongue-in-cheek phrase used to describe a failed attempt to recreate something another person created perfectly. This outcome is more common than most would like to think, yet we spend hours and dollars to make our home, our clothes, our children’s room, or that evening meal look like it did on the show or in the magazine. It can be disheartening.
I have wondered, how many of us do this in the church?
I can hear the tsk, tsk sound of those who would never behave that way. Yet, we do. Okay, I do. Over the years, I have watched couples in church, the husband and wife who hold hands during worship or during corporate prayer. The husband who puts his arm around the wife, lovingly stroking her hair or touching her face. When I am not tuned into the pastor, but instead tuned into myself, I find myself trying to “get that look.” But that is not the relationship I have with my husband. We have a teasing marriage, he will do something that will bring a reaction. It’s part of who we are, how we interact. We sometimes “get that look” from others, but it is to stop being flirty with each other in church.
I have struggled with believing another woman in church has it more “together” than I do. The one whose hair is just right, clothes are in fashion, can manage to walk in heels without falling. In reality, that’s not me. My goal most days is to have hair that isn’t standing up, clothes that are clean, and shoes that do not smell like I stepped in something on our farm before church.
One of my favorite things/blessings about being a believer is that Jesus does not expect me to be perfect, to look like the woman I passed in the hallway, or that my husband and I behave more appropriately. Jesus said in John 6:37, All that the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never cast out (ESV).
I do not have to have it all together before I come to Him. I do not have to get that look others may have before I follow Him and learn from Him.
Verse 39 continues; And this is the will of him who sent me, that I should lose nothing of all that he has given me but raise it up on the last day. For this is the will of my Father, that everyone who looks on the Son and believes in him should have eternal life, and I will raise him up on the last day (John 6:39-40).
I do not have to get a look, I have to get a life- an eternal life- through Christ. That is the only thing I need to do. Seek Him, admit that I blew it and I need forgiveness, accept the forgiveness He offers through His death, burial, and resurrection in my place. Then follow Him for the rest of my life, growing in the Grace and knowledge of my Lord Jesus Christ.
Best Beloved, where is your heart today? Are you striving to look like someone else, act like someone else? Or are you seeking to grow like Christ, to seek to follow Him?