A coworker taught me how to weave a cord using an ancient Scandinavian tool called a Lucet. The tool looks like a two tined, oversized fork with a hole just under the two tines. By using this a person can take a single strand and weave or knit it into a multi-strand cord, making it stronger and not easily broken.
As I wove my cord, I thought of a husband and wife. Over the years, each person will have a time when they submit to one another. The same way the single cord is placed over the original strand so that it can be pulled up over the first one. The cord is ever moving and the top cord becomes the bottom cord, the bottom becomes the top.
I thought of the verses in Ecclesiastes as I continued to work owing the Lucet.
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
One over, one under— submission of one another to each other (Ephesians 5:21). When completely woven together the newly made cord is not breakable. The more I thought about it, the more I saw the truth in Paul’s words.
The Ultimate Weaver will continue to bring us together in our marriage through various events and circumstances. Each time we choose to submit to each other and to God’s plan we will become a living example of the trinity; in this case, God-Husband-Wife.
It is not an instant task, it takes time and patience to maintain the rhythm and pattern. Weaving each strand again and again, until we reach the very end of our lives.
There are some who will try to weave themselves on their own, forcing their spouse to conform and submit. This will only cause troubles that will tangle and pull the other one, fraying their spouse , even to the point of breaking them.
Others may try to rush the hand of God By trying to find shortcuts to becoming a woven cord. If it is done to quickly it will tangle as well, strands will be out of place, then they will need repair in order to continue.
Still, there are marriages where spouses may only commit to God’s design half-heartedly. When difficulty comes the cord will come apart because the strand is too loose. This will also need attention to repair the damage in order to go forward.
Best Beloved, I do not know your situation. You may be married, single, separated,divorced, or even widowed. What I have learned by knitting and using the Lucet is the way God draws us to Him. He calls to us in the simple ways to come and join Him, to let Him into our lives.
My husband and I have been working on our relationship since our sons have gone off on their own. We know we are not finished with our purpose and we have chosen to work and re-invite God into our marriage.
My prayers are for you to do the same with your relationships. Allow God to make you into a wonderful blessing to others in your life.
Blessings to you, Dear One, oxoxo